Crabs in a bucket

''Anyone familiar with the behavior of a bunch of crabs trapped at the bottom of a bucket will know what happens when one of them tries to climb to the top; instead of attempting the climb themselves, those left at the bottom of the bucket will do all in their collective power to drag the climber back down. And although crab behavior should not in any way be analogous to human behavior, we can think of many instances where it is. ''

Couldn't have said it better if I tried.

I first heard the term when I was in Taiwan. Our Filipino nanny reckoned this was the norm amongst Filipino expat's (balikbayans). Her take on it was slightly different though. Which is an interesting slant on points of view about, well, crabs in a bucket. Filipinos too I suppose. It was certainly true about the balikbayans, no favours there, they would dob each other in at a whim or perceived diss'ing. Most were illegals and would end up on the plane home to Manila.

I know crabs. I have caught them before and seen their behaviour. In a bucket too. The one trying to get to the top will do anything to get there. And then what? First one in the pot. That's what.

Anyway, that's what the harridan's I mentioned in my previous post were. Crabs in a bucket. I mean, really, what ladder were those bitches climbing? At best they would have got a tiny pay increase and a huge load of extra responsibility. I am not interested in climbing the ladder, I just want to survive the next 2 years and start the Restaurant as planned. They had utterly no valid reason to give the shit they did other than being petty vindictive bitches. That is reason enough. I've seen the same type of crab behaviour directed at other people with similar consequences.

Guys don't do this type of thing. I swear, if they don't like you they will swear you silly or smack you one but they won't get crab on you.

But women, aaaaayyyyyy, scary stuff. The last crab had the audacity to look at me, as I was being canned from my job due, utterly, to her nastiness, and say, 'What about the students?' 3 months before the end of term. What about the students? Absolutely! Her crab mentality hurt them. So much for educators.

F*ck me, I was leaving anyway because it was the crappest job I had ever endured in my life.She made it worse by getting us thrown out the country just before the kid's exam's revision and says to me, 'What about the students?' Unbelievable. So, the moral of the story?

There isn't any really, apart from watching out for people who walk sideways with a desire to go upwards. Watch out for them.